Nature or Nurture?

Analyzing Infidelity III


My friend said women are so emotional...and he includes me in that category. They try to approach things using their heart and not through common sense. Taking that into consideration...

I started rationalizing the science behind Infidelity. That's were the internet comes in. I browsed through numerous articles and sites which tackles how genetics and environment play an important role in this seemingly broad topic. And these are just some of the excerpts that I found really interesting.

"Scientists suspect that many genes (50-100) could be associated with sexual behavior. They believe genes on chromosomes 3, 7 and 20 could be directly involved.". So it all starts in the womb ladies and gentlemen.Infidelity is in our genes.Nature has gifted us an engineered genetic imprint to be unfaithful.Researchers even say that women are mostly carriers of these genes. Men tendencies to become promiscuous would really depend on the size of a man's testicles ( Really now?! lol ) Just to prove that genetics plays an important role in adulterous behaviors some studies show that sleeping disorders (apnea) and/or erratic leg movements are some signs of man's thirst for lust even on a subconscious level.

"Once DNA testing becomes cheap then before entering into more committed relationships many men and women will surreptitiously take DNA samples from each other and have the DNA tested for genetic variations that contribute to infidelity and to other behavioral tendencies as well."

Here's a thought..What if you did find out that your partner has a tendencies to be unfaithful would that stop you from being with this person?! This is just another one of man's stupid idea of "fixing- it"...it's more stupid than the day they created the prenuptial agreement. Duh?! Some radical scientist would even suggest "gene therapy" or screening of babies for possible acts of infidelity in the future will help lessen the risk of marital disputes, legal battles, and eventually broken families.

Which brings us to the topic of "nurturing"..

"Radical feminists go so far as to argue that a so-called predisposition toward motherhood or heterosexuality is actually learned behavior. Thus they seek to deconstruct the institutions of society, such as the family and the free market, in order to reconstruct them to promote the "correct" set of learned behaviors."

Environment really plays an important role. Particularly the one that we are initially exposed to...our home...our family.This justifies what my friend Paul and I are discussing. Promiscuity outside the boundaries of a relationship is brought about by our need to be loved and be secured. These outcomes were experienced during when we are still sucking our mother's breast or when our daddy was carrying us on his shoulders. Thus the term 'nurture". When our partners can't meet our expectations... the image set on our minds...the feeling of being loved and secured we then tend to look for it somewhere else.

Regardless of what our predilections or predispositions may be, and regardless whether the sin is nature or nurture driven there should always be a need to justify if what were doing is right or wrong. "Being predisposed does not mean one is a helpless preprogrammed robot with no moral choice in the matter." We should know better than that.